You know when I was your age, I didn’t have a good mommy like you
I never heard the word. I love you my whole life for my mommy.
So I made it my personal promise to find something good about everybody I meet. Because they may not have had anybody tell them that they were loved or that they looked very cool
And I’m glad that you are my sister and doing that
Jeannie, I was thinking about that and I’m wondering if your daughter has just experienced her first autistic kid who was just really trying to be social.. I realize that I always got in trouble for saying things like this and I never understood why.. So this actually may be an opportunity for an autistic kid and your child to be friends
It’s hard to tell an autistic kid saying something completely innocent from something that may be thought of is bullying or harmful to another child
It may take time Jeannie.. But that child might not be a bully, but just simply a child reaching out to be friendly to your daughter, and this was their way of doing it
That very well may have been, Dana. Good point. The boy was also young, so I took that into consideration. They were in kindergarten when this happened, so I noticed that kids this age often blurt out things that they have no filter for, because their social filter has not developed yet.
However, based on what you shared here, I’m going to tuck that in the back of my mind so that when we are out in public in the future I might react a bit softer to the older kids and adults who, in my view, are inappropriately staring at Sarah. I can consider that they may be autistic. Thank you!
When we move to Washington from Hawaii, my son was only in the fourth grade. He was eight years old and he came home crying because two black kids stole his basketball.
We talked about I said are they new and he said yes and I said remember when you were new and how you hated it and it wasn’t fair because you loved your old school system and nobody asked you and you had to go to the school And Shane said yes Imagine how these two boys feel they’re forced into a white school and they don’t have their friends And everybody’s staring at them because they’re skin is different
Remember how you felt
And he said yes
So I said go out and beat the shit out of them . Take your bB ball back and we’re gonna end up going to see the principal and the principal is gonna yell at us and that’s gonna be OK. I promise you those two boys are gonna be your best friends forever
And that’s exactly what happened😂😂🥰
They’ve been friends now for 35 years. They still play basketball. They still knock each other down and beat the hell out of each 😂😂
.. I also use the technique when kids were fighting when I was babysitting them and I put one in one corner and I put the other in the other corner and I’d say I don’t want either one of you to talk to each other
I don’t want you to smile giggle
And I’d leave
And then I’d hear him giggle and then I come in and I said what did I just tell you
And then they’d stop
Within about five minutes, they were giggling and laughing and being best friends again
😂😂
Sometimes it’s just best to just think like a child and child think them😂😂🥰😂
Thank you, Sarah, and Jeannie for your discussion today. Sarah, I agree with your friends here on Substack. You will rock Sixth grade! You are so beautiful, smart, and wise! I really appreciate you and your kind words and voice. You are amazing! Enjoy your summer! I will always remember to be kind now to everyone I meet. I loved your suggestions. Hugs!
Ugh - some people always find a reason to bully others and be mean. I do not know why. Maybe they are hurting themselves. Stay brave Sarah and keep sharing kindness ❤️
😍 Although I think kids should be allowed to be kids and not be strong...It is so wrong that Sarah (and you!) have to deal with this BS. You are doing God´s work by educating people here, so a big thank you to you, Jeannie ❤️ And hugs to your brave little girl, who I hope will have a really great summer!
My “Daily Sarah!” This one, a “Brave Sarah” edition. It’s not easy sharing something from our past that hurt our feelings, or sharing things about ourselves that are different—but sharings like this help other people who need the examples from strong and brave others who had those hurtful things happen to them, but came through it braver, stronger, and more compassionate towards others. THAT’s your superpower Sarah!!!
Sarah, I really appreciate that you share your stories with us. It helps me so much to remember to be kind, especially when I am feeling tired or impatient or frustrated. You are the best!
Raising a beautiful articulate soul Mom!! Love how you love her and in turn she is learning to love exactly who she is and others too. God bless you darling Sarah❤️❤️
I like to smile and say hi to people! I think most kids get nervous about changing classes in a new school. Try not to worry too much about that. Enjoy your summer for now!
Sarah you are teaching us so much about how to be kind and thoughtful to everyone - I know it’s hard to experience things like this, but sharing them helps all of us to be more aware and thoughtful - thank you!
You know when I was your age, I didn’t have a good mommy like you
I never heard the word. I love you my whole life for my mommy.
So I made it my personal promise to find something good about everybody I meet. Because they may not have had anybody tell them that they were loved or that they looked very cool
And I’m glad that you are my sister and doing that
🫶🇺🇸
That’s beautiful, Dana. We are glad to have you as part of our Substack family.
Jeannie, I was thinking about that and I’m wondering if your daughter has just experienced her first autistic kid who was just really trying to be social.. I realize that I always got in trouble for saying things like this and I never understood why.. So this actually may be an opportunity for an autistic kid and your child to be friends
It’s hard to tell an autistic kid saying something completely innocent from something that may be thought of is bullying or harmful to another child
It may take time Jeannie.. But that child might not be a bully, but just simply a child reaching out to be friendly to your daughter, and this was their way of doing it
Please keep me in the loop on this one Jeannie.🥰🥰
That very well may have been, Dana. Good point. The boy was also young, so I took that into consideration. They were in kindergarten when this happened, so I noticed that kids this age often blurt out things that they have no filter for, because their social filter has not developed yet.
However, based on what you shared here, I’m going to tuck that in the back of my mind so that when we are out in public in the future I might react a bit softer to the older kids and adults who, in my view, are inappropriately staring at Sarah. I can consider that they may be autistic. Thank you!
Yup 🥰
It’s hard to watch our children grow up and have to navigate the world
I’m so glad that your daughter has you
And I’m glad I have you too
🥰🥰
I hope the little person who said this becomes best friends with Sarah.. Wouldn’t that be so cool?
Maybe they can paint their tiny fingernails TOGETHER 🥰😂🥰😂🥰.
That might happen one day, Dana. It just might. :)
When we move to Washington from Hawaii, my son was only in the fourth grade. He was eight years old and he came home crying because two black kids stole his basketball.
We talked about I said are they new and he said yes and I said remember when you were new and how you hated it and it wasn’t fair because you loved your old school system and nobody asked you and you had to go to the school And Shane said yes Imagine how these two boys feel they’re forced into a white school and they don’t have their friends And everybody’s staring at them because they’re skin is different
Remember how you felt
And he said yes
So I said go out and beat the shit out of them . Take your bB ball back and we’re gonna end up going to see the principal and the principal is gonna yell at us and that’s gonna be OK. I promise you those two boys are gonna be your best friends forever
And that’s exactly what happened😂😂🥰
They’ve been friends now for 35 years. They still play basketball. They still knock each other down and beat the hell out of each 😂😂
.. I also use the technique when kids were fighting when I was babysitting them and I put one in one corner and I put the other in the other corner and I’d say I don’t want either one of you to talk to each other
I don’t want you to smile giggle
And I’d leave
And then I’d hear him giggle and then I come in and I said what did I just tell you
And then they’d stop
Within about five minutes, they were giggling and laughing and being best friends again
😂😂
Sometimes it’s just best to just think like a child and child think them😂😂🥰😂
Yes, it may. It may happen that you have one of those slumber parties where the cops are called when she is older 😂🥰😂🥰😂
My oldest daughter really liked the movie Wonder and I think Sarah is going to rock 6th grade! ❤️
I think you’re right, Stephanie! Thanks for being such a great cheerleader for Sarah!
These conversations are incredibly powerful. Thank you both!
It means a lot that you stop to watch, Dan, and that you are touched by our interactions. Thanks for that!
Hi Sarah,
Thank you for reminding us how important kindness is. I appreciate you.
We appreciate you, too, Nancy. XO
Thank you, Sarah, and Jeannie for your discussion today. Sarah, I agree with your friends here on Substack. You will rock Sixth grade! You are so beautiful, smart, and wise! I really appreciate you and your kind words and voice. You are amazing! Enjoy your summer! I will always remember to be kind now to everyone I meet. I loved your suggestions. Hugs!
Thanks, Michele. Sarah is always so uplifted by the support here.
I love how you encourage Sarah to give voice to her feelings
Thanks, Ed. We do have a special dynamic. :)
Thanks for reminding us of great simple ways to be kind to each other! It’s so important! ❤️
Thanks, Nancy!
Ugh - some people always find a reason to bully others and be mean. I do not know why. Maybe they are hurting themselves. Stay brave Sarah and keep sharing kindness ❤️
I think someone wrote #SarahStrong, Kati. Your comment reminds me of this!
😍 Although I think kids should be allowed to be kids and not be strong...It is so wrong that Sarah (and you!) have to deal with this BS. You are doing God´s work by educating people here, so a big thank you to you, Jeannie ❤️ And hugs to your brave little girl, who I hope will have a really great summer!
Thanks, Kati.
❤️😥❤️
#sarahstrong
You are lucky to have such a loving & supportive family!
I think the book WONDER should be mandatory reading for middle school students & maybe younger AND maybe older❣️❣️❣️❣️
I agree! If it were required reading in elementary school, maybe the kids would grow up with more empathy.
My “Daily Sarah!” This one, a “Brave Sarah” edition. It’s not easy sharing something from our past that hurt our feelings, or sharing things about ourselves that are different—but sharings like this help other people who need the examples from strong and brave others who had those hurtful things happen to them, but came through it braver, stronger, and more compassionate towards others. THAT’s your superpower Sarah!!!
🙏🏼
Thank you, Kert. We are so happy you are with us!
Sarah, I learn so much from you! You are a light in this world. Keep practicing kindness and I will too. Sign me, your friend and your fan,
~stephanie
Glad to have you here with us, Stephanie!
I'm happy to be with you guys. Thank you for welcoming me.
Sarah, I really appreciate that you share your stories with us. It helps me so much to remember to be kind, especially when I am feeling tired or impatient or frustrated. You are the best!
Love that, CathyAnn! Sarah is so good at coming up with simple ways we can be kind to each other. :)
Raising a beautiful articulate soul Mom!! Love how you love her and in turn she is learning to love exactly who she is and others too. God bless you darling Sarah❤️❤️
Thanks, Annie. I didn’t realize how much that love showed in these videos. So glad.
I like to smile and say hi to people! I think most kids get nervous about changing classes in a new school. Try not to worry too much about that. Enjoy your summer for now!
Thanks, June.
Sarah you are teaching us so much about how to be kind and thoughtful to everyone - I know it’s hard to experience things like this, but sharing them helps all of us to be more aware and thoughtful - thank you!
So glad to hear that, Janet!